DaveM Posted November 17, 2017 Report Share Posted November 17, 2017 George, 335 days since I last spoke with my love. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Janka Posted November 17, 2017 Report Share Posted November 17, 2017 More than 2000 nights alone without my love... I stopped counting since I came to this horrible number... Janka Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scba Posted November 17, 2017 Report Share Posted November 17, 2017 1169 days for me 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Janka Posted November 17, 2017 Report Share Posted November 17, 2017 1 hour ago, scba said: 1169 days for me Send you hugs... With love Janka Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margm Posted November 17, 2017 Report Share Posted November 17, 2017 I quit counting. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cookie Posted November 17, 2017 Report Share Posted November 17, 2017 Two and a half years for me on Dec 13th (my birthday)....but I realize as I look ahead, it's a lifetime...... 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted November 18, 2017 Report Share Posted November 18, 2017 Christmas will be 4569, but it took a calculator... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwenivere Posted November 18, 2017 Report Share Posted November 18, 2017 I gotta ask....why would anyone want to add this torture of counting days on to is horrible journey? I feel it so acutely just waking up, I don't want to know the present number. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Autumn2 Posted November 19, 2017 Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 On 11/17/2017 at 3:27 AM, DaveM said: George, 335 days since I last spoke with my love. Alas, about the same for me. I dont count the days but if I did, it would be close. (12/4). I miss my Tom sooooo much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iPraiseHim Posted November 19, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 6 hours ago, Gwenivere said: I gotta ask....why would anyone want to add this torture of counting days on to is horrible journey? I feel it so acutely just waking up, I don't want to know the present number. Because It helps me to cope with it. You do what works for you in your grief healing journey. - Shalom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iPraiseHim Posted November 19, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 14 hours ago, kayc said: Christmas will be 4569, but it took a calculator... Here is the calculator I use: https://www.timeanddate.com/date/durationresult.html?m1=1&d1=1&y1=2015&m2=11&d2=18&y2=2017 Shalom 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted November 19, 2017 Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 Aww, 4536 days today then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margm Posted November 19, 2017 Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 Time is too long to count. Results the same. He is gone. He is not coming back. Would like to know when I will see him again. Sometimes even after two years, I think I hear him in the other room. He used to get so angry if I thought we should stop and ask directions. He would say "I'm not lost, I just don't know where I am." I said, Billy, that is the same thing, different words. So, he is not gone, he is just not here right now. But I will join him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brad Posted November 19, 2017 Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 845 days for me. That's 845 days of not being able to accept that this is my life now. I work hard at coping but it still seems so very surreal; so unreal. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Janka Posted November 19, 2017 Report Share Posted November 19, 2017 6 hours ago, Brad said: 845 days for me. That's 845 days of not being able to accept that this is my life now. I work hard at coping but it still seems so very surreal; so unreal. Hugs for you,my dear... With love Janka Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cookie Posted November 20, 2017 Report Share Posted November 20, 2017 On 11/19/2017 at 9:34 AM, Marg M said: Time is too long to count. Results the same. He is gone. He is not coming back. Would like to know when I will see him again. Sometimes even after two years, I think I hear him in the other room. He used to get so angry if I thought we should stop and ask directions. He would say "I'm not lost, I just don't know where I am." I said, Billy, that is the same thing, different words. So, he is not gone, he is just not here right now. But I will join him. Marg: I love that idea....just not here right now. Think I will start trying to look at it that way. You have such a great way of characterizing things...wish you were my next-door neighbor....love Cookie 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margm Posted November 20, 2017 Report Share Posted November 20, 2017 17 minutes ago, Cookie said: wish you were my next-door neighbor....love Cookie Me too...... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin Posted November 20, 2017 Report Share Posted November 20, 2017 Can I join you in your neighborhood? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margm Posted November 20, 2017 Report Share Posted November 20, 2017 You can all come over. We can throw mattresses (I buy those 4 inch ones to spread around), and we can scatter my 15-17 boxes all around and I have lots of comforters. That is something I have to have, lots of them. My daughter likes those cotton hospital blankets, some people do, but I like big puffy comforters and pillows. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cookie Posted November 21, 2017 Report Share Posted November 21, 2017 18 hours ago, Gin said: Can I join you in your neighborhood? Please...wouldn't that be great? When I leave here I would love to live in a community of like-minded people..... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TomPB Posted November 21, 2017 Report Share Posted November 21, 2017 Community for people who have had and lost great marriages could be a great thing. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iPraiseHim Posted November 23, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 23, 2017 It is such a blessing to have found this place and be able to share, care, and grow through this grief healing place. Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Shalom 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margm Posted November 23, 2017 Report Share Posted November 23, 2017 Happy Thanksgiving to you also George, and to all of us who have lost family, but still we carry on. My sister, who considers herself a chef, and she learned a lot living in New Orleans so many years. She called and asked if I could eat pork sausage. I knew she was going to make dressing using it. No one in the rest of the family eats pork sausage. Ham and bacon are the only pork they eat. Brianna and I saw a movie and we now lay off hamburgers. (used to be my favorite food). We, most of us, hate turkey, but love chicken. Wish we still had the reunions that we had when I was a child. All the aunts, uncles, cousins and neighbors and other relatives with the sisters all in the kitchen fussing, always fussing over who cooked the best. Would like to be that innocent child again...........but, we have our memories, and I admit they are a poor substitute. Have as happy a day as you can. I know, "happy" is not in our vocabulary. We do our best. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TomPB Posted November 23, 2017 Report Share Posted November 23, 2017 "happy" has become something like "cry less" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin Posted November 23, 2017 Report Share Posted November 23, 2017 Wishing all as good as day as possible.,. My brother calls it a "less miserable " day. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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