helennmike2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Report Share Posted August 14, 2013 My mom died at 85 June 6 2013. I lived with her to take care of her. she had altimers she went to fast.i lived with her over 12 years to help her. she was my mom, my friend and teacher. I miss her so much.i woke up at 3.30 am crying, I cry everyday and want to be with her. 3 days later my brother died. me and my mom were so close. I can't live without her.i have to deal with it alone.my brothers out here don't call or come over, they have never cared about me. I call them they never call back. she was a wonderful women . I know she is in heaven. I feel I have no one. I am still in the house we shared just to many memories so I am looking for new place. some times I can't do anything, or I don't feel like eating. I really want her back. sometimes I think I see her or hear her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katrina407 Posted August 14, 2013 Report Share Posted August 14, 2013 I am sorry for your loss. Let me tell you i lost MOM a year ago, and I still think of her, miss her a lot. I do still cry over her somtimes, the only person that cares a lot for me is a real good friend of mine, she has been there through the hard times in my life. Also I have a pet , that helps a lot, takes the loneliness away. Again I am very sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enna Posted August 14, 2013 Report Share Posted August 14, 2013 I just finished reading this post and I want to tell you how very sorry I am that both you and Katrina have lost your mothers. It is such a significant loss when we lose a parent. How wonderful of you to care for your mother during her illness. It takes a very special person to care for a parent. I know how very hard this is for you but it will get easier for you. This grief of yours is way too raw for you not to feel deep pain. This is a good place for you to come and express your feelings. We listen with an open heart. What a double tragedy for you to also lose your brother. I am so sorry for this loss. You have many things that you are dealing with right now. Do you have access to a grief counselor? They can help you sort out all the feelings you are experiencing. It is very important that you take care of yourself. Anne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted August 14, 2013 Report Share Posted August 14, 2013 I am so sorry for both of your losses. Wow, to lose your mom and your brother at the same time, that's really tough. My mom has Dementia now, stage 2, it's tough. You're an amazing person to take care of her all that time. We're here to listen if you want to share your feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helennmike2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 15, 2013 Thank you all for your replys I am so glad to find this site as the family out here left has not helped me they haven't even called since she died or my brother who died to. and being in the same house does not help which is why I am looking for a new place. way to many memories. the counselors are way to far for me cause I don't drive somedays I just want to be with her she said 6 times she wanted me to go with her when she goes to heaven I promised I would but I did not but there are times I feel like it.Thank you for being there for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted August 16, 2013 Report Share Posted August 16, 2013 Dear one, I notice that your mom died on Hospice of the Valley's service. This means that, in addition to the information, comfort and support I know that you will continue to find here, you are eligible to receive all the other services that our Bereavement Department has to offer. You said "the counselors are way too far for me cause I don't drive," but be aware that one of our Bereavement Counselors can arrange to come to you and meet with you individually in your own home, if you like. Click on Hospice of the Valley Grief Support for more information. See also some of the resources you'll find on these web pages: Death of a Parent Death of a Sibling Given the feelings you describe of wanting so badly to be with your mom in Heaven, you might also find this article to be helpful: Thoughts of Suicide in Grief Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helennmike2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 17, 2013 Marty, thank you for all the information. I also don't drive. I am going to check into all the information you told me about. so thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gta8ball Posted September 25, 2013 Report Share Posted September 25, 2013 I know how you feel I lost my mom a few days ago and I can't find time to grieve and it kills me just a bit everyday. She was my best friend and my only mother. Its hard and if you need to talk I'm here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted September 25, 2013 Report Share Posted September 25, 2013 gta8ball, Can you not get some time off? I was only off two weeks when my husband died, I had to go back to work, but the grieving continued...evening after evening, and weekends were the hardest. Tears can be releasing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gta8ball Posted September 26, 2013 Report Share Posted September 26, 2013 I can't. I've got rent due the fifth and I have no alternate source of income. It slows down time a lot which is really painful. But I don't know what else to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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